Have you ever truly felt your sadness with a tangible density, without escaping it or suppressing it? I’m sure you have. We all go through things where staying cheerful is simply not an option.
But let me ask you this: Have you ever given yourself permission to be sad? Have you ever been able to sit down and say, “Right now, I am sad, and I will allow this feeling to stay here for a while”?
To be honest, until recently, my answer would have been “no.” To me, sadness was an emotion that needed to be eliminated immediately. It had to be replaced by joy quickly so as not to ruin the mood. I felt I shouldn’t be sad, because I thought if I were, it would ruin everyone else’s happiness too.
However, lately, I’ve been learning to build a different relationship with sadness. Without covering it up, without escaping into another emotion, and letting it stay for as long as it needs to stay.
I can’t say I’ve fully mastered it yet. But at least I now know that this is both necessary and healthy.
Because allowing the feeling of sadness to dwell within us—even for a little while—helps us look at whatever the issue is from a different perspective. To stay calmly in that emotion without running or getting angry, to take the time to look inward, to confront it, and to emerge from it by extracting the necessary meaning.
When we don’t rush to leave this emotional state, its intensity first begins to fade. Then, it transforms into a familiar and bittersweet melancholy. After that, a light relief follows—as if every breath you take fills your insides with the coolness of mint.
After a while, the tears settle. When you look back, you realize you are no longer the same person. Perhaps that is exactly the point: When we give ourselves permission to grieve, we evolve and transform without even realizing it.
The transformation we’re talking about might not be a massive one. But even the smallest realization doesn’t change the fact that you are no longer the same person.
For my part, I allow myself to be sad now. I take the awareness that this human emotion creates within me and continue on my way. May this writing reach all my friends who constantly postpone their sadness, saying “I don’t have time for this now,” and who keep running just to appear strong.
Wishing it brings healing.
Nazan
About These Piece!
If These Piece Had a Color : It would be ”Autumn Blaze”.
If These Piece Had a Song: It would be ”Chopin:Nocturne No.20 in C-Sharp Minor, Op. Posth” by Fazıl Say.
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If These Piece Had a Scent :It would be ”Fresh Mint Lieves”.
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