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Let’s face it: some of us come into this world with a silver spoon, and others with a plastic one.

Those born with a silver spoon may lose it along the way or turn that spoon into a weapon and ruin their lives. On the other hand, those born with a plastic spoon can use it as a lever to move their entire world.

There are, of course, different beliefs regarding our arrival and journey in this life. According to some beliefs, we choose our lives before we are even born; in other words, we determine our own destiny, though we are completely unaware of this once we arrive. Perhaps.

According to others, the moment of our birth, the country we are born into, the family we join, and even the moment and cause of our death are predetermined—the decision of a “Universal Will.” However, we are the ones who truly shape our lives. It is our choices. This is what is called “Individual Will.” This, too, is a possibility.

Years ago, I read a book titled Pretty Little Mistakes by Heather McElhatton.

Unlike a classic novel, this work transforms the reader from a mere observer into the protagonist themselves. The journey begins with choices presented to you in the very first pages, and depending on every decision you make, the story branches into completely different paths, leading to one of hundreds of possible endings. A “small” risk you take in the book can make you the richest person in the world, while a “wrong” decision on the next page can find you in the midst of a disaster. The author’s interactive narrative provides a staggering experience of how destiny is sometimes as close as turning a single page, and how our choices define who we become.

Reading that book gave me a chance to reflect deeply. I realized even more back then how profoundly every choice we make can cause radical changes in our lives.

In reality, life is just like that book; every time we fall, it presents us with two invisible options: You will either stay where you are and end the story there, or, despite the pain, you will turn the next page and give a new possibility a chance.

It is precisely this “page-turning reflex” that distinguishes the members of the “Never-Giver-Uppers Club” from everyone else. They have one thing in common: they fall; they sustain wounds, sometimes large, sometimes small. But they do not set up camp where they have fallen for long. They accept that they have fallen, and with that acceptance, they stand back up. Sometimes they walk with a limp, and sometimes they run at full speed. They walk that path knowing they might fall again. For them, a story ending in disaster is not the end of the road, but a starting point to begin anew. There is no room for hopelessness in their book. Every fall harbors an opportunity to rise again.

Of course, they get tired. Sometimes they may choose to stay on the ground a little longer just to catch their breath, but I don’t know a single member of this club who has actually stayed there.

Another common trait is the risks they take in their lives. They don’t consider merely existing to be “living.” They make a business out of living and take risks when necessary. Their visionary nature sometimes increases the level of risk they are willing to take. When luck is on their side, they reach their goals after a certain period (my dear friend, whom I mentioned at the beginning of my piece, is one of those who succeeded in this).

I count myself as a member of this club as well. There are times when I have taken risks to realize the life I dreamed of and have fallen. In fact, I can say that right now, I am crawling to get back on my feet. But have no doubt that I will stand up and walk—and even run.

Salutations to all the members of the Never Give Up Club.

With Love

Nazan

About This Piece

If These Piece had a Color : It would be ”Aurora Glow”.

If These Piece had a Song : It would be ”I Know You’re Hurting- Raye”. https://open.spotify.com/track/3U5JVgI2x4rDyHGObzJfNf?si=f9047821d23d42ac

If These Piece had a Scent : It would be ”A glass of Scotch after a hard-won Victory”